ATTACHMENT BEHAVIOUR IN THE COUNSELLING ROOM
ATTACHMENT BEHAVIOURIN THE COUNSELLING ROOMJohn Bowlby 1907-1990
John stEthologyHarry Harlow’s MonkeysCarlLorenzImprinting
ATTACHMENT THEORY1951Bowlby prepared a reporton behalf of theWorld Health Organisationas a contribution to theUnited Nations programmefor the welfare ofhomeless children.Maternal care ininfancy and earlychildhood is essentialfor mental health!
THE CHANGING ROLE OF THE MOTHERMechanics,engineers,munitions workers,air raid wardens,bus/fire enginedrivers,land girls
ATTACHMENT THEORYWhen you are confusedby a client’s behaviourTHINKATTACHMENT!
HOW THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEM IS FORMEDSecure Attachment
THE ATTACHMENT BEHAVIOUR SYSTEMThe relationship with thekey Caregiver is designed tohelp the young child feelSAFE AND SECUREThe Attachment BehaviourSystem is ACTIVATEDin times ofdanger, stressand novelty.The aim is to get close toand stay close to the keyattachment figure.Image by Lawrence Crayton, Pixabay
SECURE ATTACHMENTWhat the child does .criesWhat the mother does respondscallsclingsprotectsholdsavailable intuitive loving
I’m ok!You’re ok!I’m wanted and welcomedI belong in this family!Sense of beingSense of wellbeing
THE STRANGE SITUATIONMARY AINSWORTH1-2 year-old children – 1970sStress activates child’s Attachment System
SECURE ATTACHMENTThe Secure child Cries if mum leaves – it’s worth it! It gets results! Demands/receives care on her return Plays happily AgencyThe baby expects hiscry to be heard and thathe will be comforted.Donald Winnicott:“His majesty the baby”
INTERNAL WORKING MODEL
SECURE ATTACHMENT – INTERNAL WORKING MODELLove is AvailableLove is GivenI am worthy toreceive that loveSECUREATTACHMENTWe turn to PEOPLEin times ofdistress or need.Image by Rebecca Schönbrodt-Rühl from Pixabay
THE ADULT ATTACHMENT INTERVIEWMary Main (1943- ) an American psychologist professor and acolleague of Mary Ainsworth came up with the additional category of‘disorganised’ attachment for infants whosemothers are frightening or frightened,leaving the child no route to find safetyCarol GeorgeIn 1984, along with Carol Georgeand Nancy Kaplan, Main was alsoinstrumental in developing theAdult Attachment Interview.Nancy Kaplan
ADULT ATTACHMENT STYLESOrganisedAttachmentSecureAUTONOMOUS
HOW THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEM IS FORMEDInsecure AvoidantAttachment
INSECURE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT“If you are upset, deal with it yourself get a grip.”
WHO MET MY NEEDS?
INSECURE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
INSECURE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT“Life is D.I.Y.”Mothers are Practical Functional Busy Not touchyfeelyChild becomes Selfsufficient Self-reliant Not touchyfeelyINSECUREAVOIDANT
INSECURE AVOIDANT ATTACHMENTINTERNAL WORKING MODEL You’re on your own If you are stressedor upset, get a grip Don’t look to peopleto meet your needs Don’t get too closeto people Don’t show youremotions
ADULT ATTACHMENTThe young child finds a way to reach their AttachmentFigure, but it’s a roundabout, painful way.Don’t be a nuisance, don’t make a fuss, be grateful,there’s nothing wrong with you, don’t upset me Attachment is organised and stable, but not happy.(Adah Sachs)Deficits in therelationship with thekey AttachmentFigure in childhood leadto difficulties informing future intimaterelationships (eg withpartner/children).
ADULT ATTACHMENT MISSIVEAUTONOMOUSAttachmentSystem isDEACTIVATED
JANE: AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
HOW THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEM IS FORMEDInsecure AmbivalentAttachmentIt’s allabout me!Please loveme Hans Benn, Pixabay
WHO MET MY NEEDS?
INSECURE-AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENTUNPREDICTABLE HypervigilantScanningAnxious l
Image by Chrystal Elizabeth from Pixabay
INTERNAL WORKING MODELI have to work out if I’m safe, if I’m ok.GoAway!Don’tLeaveme!
HEINZ KOHUT – “SELF PSYCHOLOGY”EmpathyIdealisingParents’ failure toClients are seekingempathise with thethe calm, power,child.wisdom andEmpathy is a powerfulgoodness of antherapeutic tool inomnipotentbuilding the therapeutic idealised counsellorrelationshipPic by Gracia LamPic by John Hain, PixabayTwinning/MirroringThe affirming,positive responses ofthe counsellor enablethe client to seepositive traits withinthemselves“I want to be likeyou ”
ADULT ATTACHMENT chment isDEACTIVATEDFEARFULAttachment isHYPER-ACTIVATED
PREOCCUPIED ATTACHMENT STYLEIf she’d onlyhug me Should I suggest shegets therapy?I want tohear hersay sheloves me
ROSE: AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT
ADULT ATTACHMENT STYLESDisorganisedAttachmentUNRESOLVED
DISORGANISED ATTACHMENTTraumaAbuseNeglectCarers are frightening or frightenedThe only hand to offer rescue is the abuser’sEasier to believe I am unlovable/bad (Trauma Bond)Who can I trust? Where am I safe?
RESTRUCTURING THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEMHORROR VACUI – FEAR OF THE EMPTY SPACE
RESTRUCTURING THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEM Conflict when someone tells us they love us/see uspositively Suspicion! You’re idealising me You don’t really know me What do you want from me? We want to hang on to ournegative self-image because it’sconnected to our past It’s how we’ve always knownourselves.Tamsen Firestone
RISKED ATTACHMENTIt shakes us up to learn thatsomething we thought wasfundamentally true mightnot be. We have to dare tochallenge ourselves and ourdefences – what’s getting inmy way?Trusting is scaryand risky!
DON’T GET PULLED OUT OF SHAPE! Know our own Attachment styleKeep working on our own issuesStay with core conditions & key skillsKeep boundaries clearShow your workingsHave good Supervision
CREATIVEWAYS OFWORKINGWITHATTACHMENT
CREATIVE WAYS OF WORKING WITH ATTACHMENT
CREATIVE WAYS OF WORKING WITH ATTACHMENTChoose animals to represent family members: How close are they to each other? Which ones relate to each other? How similar are they? Experiment with moving them around. Explore the feelings, eg if an animal is removed from thescene.
CREATIVE WAYS OF WORKING WITH ATTACHMENTWhat is the client’s core fairytale? Can give clues as totheir Attachment style. Sleeping Beauty (don’t wakeme up!) Little Red Riding Hood (is itGrandma or the wolf?)Draw yourself as a tree: Alone or with other trees?What season?What kind of tree?What kind of fruit?
Tamsen Firestone We want to hang on to our negative self-image because it’s connected to our past It’s how we’ve always known ourselves. RESTRUCTURING THE ATTACHMENT SYSTEM. RISKED ATTACHMENT It shakes us up to lea
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Unit 8: Continuing Personal Development in Counselling 57 Unit 9: Human Development in Relation to Counselling 63 Unit 10: Client Work in Therapeutic Counselling 69 Unit 11: Counselling for Loss and Grief 75 Unit 12: Counselling Clients Who Have Experienced Abuse 81 Unit 13: Counselling Young People 87 Unit 14: Relationship Counselling 93
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