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6.125 x 9.25 SPINE: 1.3125{cont i nu ed f ro m i n sid e fro n t fl ap}work week, a corner office, 10 pounds offin 10 days or that Mars will ever begin tounderstand Venus.Connect with Vickie and you’ll begin thinkingand acting in a more exaggerated, uncommonlywicked way to reach out and finally grasp thesuccess you desire.Vi c k ie L . Mil a zzoWickedSuccess.com 21.95 USA/ 25.95 CANWe’re all simply one step away from achieving whatwe want and getting what we deserve out of life.ITo seize control of her own life and career, Vickie Milazzo, internationally-knownwomen’s mentor, New York Times bestselling author, Inc. Top 10 Entrepreneurand self-made millionaire, was willing to take a whacking from a Buddhistmonk, jump out of an airplane and step out of a comfortable job into theunknown. In Wicked Success Is Inside Every Woman, Vickie shares everysuccess secret she used to grow her career into a 16-million business.We also face an onslaught of time-suckingdistractions, the Internet, email following youeverywhere, Facebook, Twitter, texting and virtualrelationships—all competing with our ability toaccomplish Big Things in our lives. No wonderwe don’t have time for fun and sex! No wonderundertaking new goals seems like just anotherimpossible dream on an ever-growing list ofbanished aspirations.Vickie shows you how to get real about achieving wicked success. Not witchesand flying broomsticks wicked—but exaggerated wicked. Reading this book,you’ll feel like you’re sitting with a good friend who inspires you, encourages youand pushes you to think in a more exaggerated and uncommon way. This is abuck-up book with a buck-up plan for any woman ready to take back controlof her life and career and unleash the wicked success inside every woman.p revi ous p rai se for vi c ki e mi la zzo :“ Vickie Milazzo and the phenomenal success she has achieved for herself and others areastonishing. It doesn’t matter what your life or career goals are, the 10 strengths shereveals Inside Every Woman will make it happen for you.”—Dayna Steele, host of The Art of Doing Business on the BizRadio Network“ If your life is less than perfect and your happiness falls short of complete, buck up andbuy this book. It’s stuffed with good advice, real-life stories and womanly wisdom.”—Michelle Nichols, “Savvy Selling” columnist for BusinessWeek Online“ As a radio producer and host, I read four books per week, then donatethem . Vickie Milazzo’s book is a must-read and must-keep guidefor every woman and boasts a prominent place in my library.”—Cynthia Brian, New York Times bestselling author ofChicken Soup for the Gardener’s Soul“ This book is as dynamic as the author herself. Vickie is anextremely giving individual ; she pulls no punches and holdsback nothing that could help another.”—Sherry PalmerF YOU ’ R E L I K E M O S T WO M E N,you’re still climbing out of a hole created bythe worst economic recession since the GreatDepression. If that’s not enough angst to dealwith, your boss wants it yesterday, your kidswant it today and your spouse wants it tonight.Vickie Milazzo, New York Times bestselling authorand Inc. Top 10 Entrepreneur, knows all toowell that choices for women are abundant today.But who needs more work, more stress or moreresponsibilities without the wicked strategies tohandle them all?New York TimesBESTSELLERVickie L.F r e e bon us m at e ri al ava ilable at:Wicked Success ISInside Every WomanMilazzoFrom a shotgun house in New Orleans to owner of a 16-million business, Vickie shares the wicked successstrategies that earned her a place on the Inc. list of Top 10Entrepreneurs. She is the CEO and owner of Vickie MilazzoInstitute, an education company she founded in 1982.Featured in the New York Times as the pioneer ofa new profession, she built a national professionalassociation of 5,000 members and is recognized asa trusted mentor by tens of thousands of women.A dynamic blogger, speaker and New York Times bestsellingauthor, Vickie has appeared on national television andradio as a career and entrepreneurial expert. She willenergize you to achieve your own wicked success.FLAPS: 3.5New York Times BestsellerFor 29 years Vickie has mentored thousandsof women to achieve wicked success—everything from obtaining overdue promotions tocreating million-dollar businesses. This bookmakes that same personal mentoring yours. Andyou don’t have to give up your life, your time oryour relationships to be wickedly successful. Vickiewon’t disrespect you with pat answers or new agemumbo-jumbo. She won’t promise you a 4-hour{co n t i n ue d o n bac k i n s i d e f l a p}
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C O P Y R I G H T 2011 BY VICK IE L. M IL A Z ZO. A LL RIGHTS RESERVED .Published by John Wiley & Sons, Inc., Hoboken, New Jersey.Published simultaneously in Canada.NACLNC is a registered service mark and collective membership mark of Vickie Milazzo Institute.Female Fusion is a registered service mark of Vickie Milazzo Institute.No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any formor by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning, or otherwise, except aspermitted under Section 107 or 108 of the 1976 United States Copyright Act, without either the priorwritten permission of the Publisher, or authorization through payment of the appropriate per-copy fee tothe Copyright Clearance Center, Inc., 222 Rosewood Drive, Danvers, MA 01923, (978) 750-8400, fax(978) 646-8600, or on the web at www.copyright.com. Requests to the Publisher for permission shouldbe addressed to the Permissions Department, John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 111 River Street, Hoboken,NJ 07030, (201) 748-6011, fax (201) 748-6008, or online at www.wiley.com/go/permissions.Limit of Liability/Disclaimer of Warranty: While the publisher and author have used their best effortsin preparing this book, they make no representations or warranties with respect to the accuracyor completeness of the contents of this book and specifically disclaim any implied warranties ofmerchantability or fitness for a particular purpose. No warranty may be created or extended by salesrepresentatives or written sales materials. The advice and strategies contained herein may not be suitablefor your situation. You should consult with a professional where appropriate. Neither the publisher norauthor shall be liable for any loss of profit or any other commercial damages, including but not limitedto special, incidental, consequential, or other damages.For general information on our other products and services or for technical support, please contact ourCustomer Care Department within the United States at (800) 762-2974, outside the United States at(317) 572-3993 or fax (317) 572-4002.Wiley also publishes its books in a variety of electronic formats. Some content that appears in print maynot be available in electronic books. For more information about Wiley products, visit our web site atwww.wiley.com.Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data:Milazzo, Vickie L.Wicked success is inside every woman / Vickie L. Milazzo.p. cm.Includes index.ISBN 978-1-118-10052-3 (cloth); ISBN 978-1-118-16271-2 (ebk);ISBN 978-1-118-16270-5 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-118-16269-9 (ebk)1.4.7.Success in business. 2. Businesswomen. 3. Women executives.Successful people. 5. Women—Psychology. 6. Self-actualization (Psychology)Success. I. Title.HF5386.M5784 2011650.1082—dc232011028240Printed in the United States of America10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1FFIRS.indd iv11/08/11 12:48 AM
To my mom for setting me on my voyage of discovery,to all the women exploring their extraordinary potentialand to my husband Tom for loving the womaninside and outside me.FFIRS.indd v13/09/11 3:34 PM
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CONTENTSPrefacexv5 PROMISES1Make These Promises to Unleash the 10 ForcesWithin You15 Promises Provide the Fuel1Promise 1: I Will Live and Work a Passionate Life4Promise 2: I Will Go for It or Reject It Outright7Promise 3: I Will Take One Action Step a Day TowardMy Passionate Vision10Promise 4: I Commit to Being a Success Studentfor Life12Promise 5: I Believe as a Woman I Really CanDo Anything14Harness Your 10 Feminine Forces with the 5 Promises17FIREIgnite Your Inner Fire to Live Passionately19Passion Fans the Flame of Wicked Success21Let Your Passions Move You22Discover Your Fire to Live Passionately24The Passionate Path Isn’t Quick and Easy29viiFTOC.indd vii08/08/11 6:53 PM
viiiWICKED SUCCESS IS INSIDE EVERY WOMAN23FTOC.indd viiiThe Passionate Path Isn’t Balanced31Passion Doesn’t Burn the Same for All Women3110 Strategies for Living Passionately32Ignite Your Fire with the 5 Promises39Evie’s Fire41INTUITIVE VISIONImagine Unlimited Possibilities to CaptureYour Vision43Intuition Is Cognition on Steroids45Imagination Trumps Knowledge45Order Off the Right Menu47Show Up with No Guarantee49Use Silence to Arouse Imagination51Get Out of Your Head54Trust Your Way Through the Chaos56Relax Your Way into Wicked Success58Practice Mentally Everything You Wantto Accomplish61Get Down with Beethoven62Accelerate Achievement with Hypnagogic Imagery63Speed Up to Be Mindful64Link Your Vision to Your Passion65Be Ready with Your Next Vision66Capture Your Intuitive Vision with the 5 Promises68Maggie’s Vision70ENGAGEMENTEngage Commitment to Achieve Big Things73Engage Your Fears to Conquer Them75Ditch Perfectionism80Break the Feel-Good Addiction82Engage One Big Thing at a Time84Get Whacked Like a Buddhist9108/08/11 6:53 PM
CONTENTS45FTOC.indd ixixEngage in What’s Right, Not What’s Easy96Engage the Details98Shrug Off Restrictions99Don’t Be a Commitment Queen100Engage to Achieve Big Things with the 5 Promises103Leigh’s Engagement105AGILITYFlex Your Agility to Grab New Opportunities107Shake It Up109Flex Your Curiosity111Challenge a Fixed Viewpoint113Stretch to Intensify Agility116Dive Deeper Every Day116Schedule an Agility Break118Add the Right Tools to Your Agility Arsenal120Agility Is a Two-Minute Investment122Don’t Be a Relic of Past Splendor123Get in Sync with Agility, Not Insanewith Diverseness124Leave Your Old Comforts at Home128Flex Your Agility with the 5 Promises130Blanche’s Agility132GENIUSIntensify Your Intelligence for Accelerated Success135Collaboration Is Collective Genius136Leverage People Who Are AlreadyWickedly Successful138Now That You’ve Got the Advice,Be Genius and Heed It140Genius Hears Other Voices142Challenge the Experts144Remove Your Own Burrs14608/08/11 6:53 PM
xWICKED SUCCESS IS INSIDE EVERY WOMAN67FTOC.indd xTrust Your Own Voice147Stop Hanging with the Biggest Losers148Genius Combines IQ and Hard Work150Employ the Genius of Einstein154Intensify Your Genius with the 5 Promises163Chris’s Genius165INTEGRITYPractice Uncompromising Integrity forAuthentic Success167Breaching Integrity Betrays Opportunity168Every Act Counts169Stand Up for Your Integrity170Consensus on Integrity Is Elusive172Every Promise Counts176Be Accountable to Your Integrity177Do the Right Thing When No One Is Looking177Don’t Bring an Elephant into the Room179Refuse to Be an Integrity Victim180Avoid the Lure of Manipulation181Put Your Integrity Where Your Mouth Is182Kiss Off Complainers183Keep Your Integrity Public and Your DirtyLaundry Private186Practice Uncompromising Integrity with the5 Promises187Jan’s Integrity189ENDURANCEFuel Your Endurance to Energize Your Performance191Keep Dancing Your Passionate Vision193Fuel Your Endurance with Persistence19508/08/11 6:53 PM
CONTENTS8FTOC.indd xixiStop Running on Empty197Fuel Endurance with Incremental Payoffs198Fuel Endurance with the Right Focus199Endure for the Fun of It203Take to the Air Like a Butterfly205Fuel Your Endurance with Fire206Harvest Energy to Increase Your Endurance20810 Strategies for Building YourEndurance Muscles209Fuel Your Endurance with the 5 Promises212Susan’s Endurance214ENTERPRISEBecome the CEO of Your Career and Life217Be First at the River to Get a Drink218Satisfy Your Thirst at the River of Choice220Venture Out from a Solid Foundation223Command Financial Control inYour Enterprise228Assemble an Extraordinary Framework230Everything Is Marketing233Don’t Just Create an Experience—Create anUnforgettable Memory239Be Your Own Number One Fan244Don’t Be a Commodity245Negotiate Like You Mean It246Retie the Connection Over Fried Oysters249Networking Is Not Working250Keep the Wind in Your Sails252Become the CEO of Your Career and Lifewith the 5 Promises255Martha’s Enterprise25708/08/11 6:53 PM
xiiWICKED SUCCESS IS INSIDE EVERY WOMAN910FTOC.indd xiiRENEWALReclaim Your Life Energy ThroughFrequent Renewal259Renew Your Relationship with Yourself260Renew Your Physical Energy Daily263Replenish Your Emotional Energy267Nurture and Renew Your Spirit275Recharge Your Mental Energy276Celebrate to Intensify Renewal278Renew Your Energy with thePeople You Love279Renew by Giving Back2816 Strategies for Total Renewal282Renew Your Life Energy with the 5 Promises284Lindsay’s Renewal286FEMALE FUSIONFuse with Incredible Women to Attainthe Impossible289The Story of the First Female Fusion2903 Stories of Women Forever Changed293Female Fusion Is a Protective Caprock297Fusion Is More Than a Women’s Group298Fusion Needs Heat298Female Fusion Requires Purpose301The Basic Fusion Format Is Simple301Activate Your First Fusion302Spark Fusion Throughout the Entire Group306Unleash Boundless Fusion Energy307Fuse with Professional Colleagues309Have Fun with Fusion as You Attainthe Impossible30908/08/11 6:53 PM
CONTENTSFTOC.indd xiiixiiiActivate Female Fusion with the 5 Promises311Vickie’s Fusion313Savor Your Wicked Success315Acknowledgments317Book Club Guide319About the Author321Index32308/08/11 6:53 PM
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P R E FAC EWHEN MY PUBLISHER at John Wiley & Sons, Inc. emailedme asking if I was interested in writing a new book, I immediatelyresponded “No, I am deep in projects and way too busy.”You see, I don’t write how-to books or give motivational speechesfor a living. The last book I wrote was my 2006 Wall Street Journalbestseller Inside Every Woman. I’m a business owner, a working CEOactively involved in managing a multimillion-dollar company with23 employees. I live and thrive in the business trenches every day andlove most of those moments.The day after I said no to Wiley, I woke up knowing I hadto say yes to this book. I couldn’t stop thinking, “What a differencefive years makes and what a difference five years doesn’t make.”When I wrote my book in 2006, the first questions I asked you,my readers, were: “What would your life look like if every momentof it was absolutely enriched, fulfilled and swelling with joy?Think about it—your health, relationships, career, spirituality andfinances are the best they can be and you greet each day with energyand enthusiasm for whatever comes your way. What wouldaccomplish that?”These questions were suddenly feeling too “Pollyanna-ish” and Iwas forced to ask myself whether these aspirations were even relevantto women today, much less possible. In the five short years since InsideEvery Woman debuted, women are facing more challenges than ever andincreasingly scrambling to keep up and survive in a world that is gettingsmaller, faster and flatter every second of every day.xvFPREF.indd xv08/08/11 9:21 AM
xviWICKED SUCCESS IS INSIDE EVERY WOMANMost women are still climbing out of a hole created by the worsteconomic recession since the Great Depression. Middle-aged women aresupporting not just themselves, but their parents and their “returned-tothe-nest” children. Young women, financially challenged to break outfrom under mom and dad, are struggling in jobs (if they can find one)that don’t cover life’s necessities.With the world in such flux and so insecure, it’s no wonder that“hooking up” and “sexting” are becoming the new relationship models.Yet another challenge for women who yearn for meaningful relationshipsthat fulfill more than a momentary urge.As if that’s not enough angst, there’s also an onslaught of timesucking distractions, game apps, the Internet everywhere, Facebook,Twitter, texting, virtual relationships and reality TV shows (that areanything but). All this buzz constantly competes with our ability toaccomplish Big Things in our lives. Add to that our smartphones,which none of us would live without, but which keep us tethered tothe noise. No wonder undertaking new goals and getting tothe heart of your womanly desires seems like just another impossibledream.No question these are unprecedented times, but these are also excitingtimes that offer unlimited opportunities. Women have more of a voicetoday. We are outpacing men not just in bachelor’s degrees but alsoadvanced college degrees, increasingly becoming leaders and the primaryfamily breadwinners.At the same time, what a difference five years doesn’t make. Here’s azinger of a reality check: Women earn a mere 75 percent of what menearn. Women with the same level of education as men, executing thesame job description as men, get paid less than men.Doesn’t that fact piss you off ? Most women can describe ad infinitumhow they work a lot harder (some women breadwinners hold two tothree jobs at one time) for a lot less. And they’re not happy about it.Here’s what some of my friends say:Women have to work twice as hard as men to be thought halfas competent. Of course, thankfully, that’s not hard.—RACHELFPREF.indd xvi08/08/11 9:21 AM
xviiPREFACEWow! It has taken several generations to get this far? We have run ringsaround the men in the workforce and still do not get the same pay!—JUDYWe do 175 percent between job and home. Welcome to womanhood.—DIANADon’t even get me started . . .—ELAINEUnless you’re Demi Moore, you will outlive the man you love. Andunlike your male counterparts, you are more likely to spend your lastyears in poverty. Statistics show that, like it or not, you will probablyhave to work well beyond age 65.Choices for women are abundant, but at what cost? Women tell methey’re more exhausted than excited by all the opportunities. Just onemore “to do,” as if we don’t have enough of those already. Who needsmore work, more stress, more responsibilities? Why should we accepthaving less time for fun and the simple satisfactions of life?Success should include living the life we make for ourselves, notmerely existing in it. If you haven’t been reduced to your breakingpoint one or more times in your life, you’re either very young indeed orprobably not a woman.I wrote this book so that you can be one of those women who arefree to glide gracefully through the demanding chaos and excitinguncertainties and ask such provocative questions as:“How do I begin to create a life and career more on my own termswhen I’m too busy simply existing?”“How do I even find the time to imagine a goal that stimulates mypurpose and fulfills my dreams when I can’t get five minutes to myself?”“How do I embrace fear as a growth opportunity to accomplishthose goals?”That’s why I titled this book Wicked Success Is Inside Every Woman.These exaggerated times call for a wicked mind-set. To get out of survivalFPREF.indd xvii08/08/11 9:21 AM
xviiiWICKED SUCCESS IS INSIDE EVERY WOMANmode and into success mode you have to embrace a new, wickedlyresourceful mind.I mean wicked in an exaggerated, uncommon way, a way that hasnothing to do with green witches or evil thoughts but instead haseverything to do with an outrageous viewpoint and perspective.I’m a “buck-up” style woman who has little interest in people whoexpect something for nothing, or who think success will come throughmental osmosis via their iPads stuffed full of self-help MP3s, podcasts or“easy-ways-to” eBooks.I’ve spent 29 years giving real women concrete, no excuses, take-noprisoners advice on how to make wicked career changes and start realbusinesses.I’ve been privile
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