HOLY MATRIMONY - Orthodox Church In America

10Deacon:Commemorating our most holy, most pure, most blessed and gloriousLady, Theotokos and ever-virgin Mary with all the saints, let uscommend ourselves and each other, and all our life unto Christ ourGod.Choir:To Thee, O Lord.Priest:For unto Thee are due all glory, honor, and worship: to the Father,and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages ofages.Choir:Amen.Deacon:Let us pray to the Lord.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Priest:O God most pure, fashioner of every creature, Who didst transformthe rib of our forefather Adam into a wife, because of Thy lovetowards mankind, and didst bless them, and said to them: Be fruitfuland multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; Who didst make of thetwo one flesh: Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother andcleaves to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh, and whatGod has joined together, let no man put asunder. Thou didst blessThy servant Abraham, and opening the womb of Sarah didst makehim to be the father of many nations. Thou didst give Isaac toRebecca, and didst bless her in child-bearing. Thou didst join Jacobunto Rachel, and from them didst bring forth the twelve patriarchs.Thou didst unite Joseph and Aseneth, giving to them Ephraim andManasseh as the fruit of their procreation. Thou didst acceptZachariah and Elizabeth, and didst make their offspring to be theForerunner. From the root of Jesse according to the flesh, Thou didstbud forth the ever-virgin one, and wast incarnate of her; and wastborn of her for the redemption of the human race. Through Thineunutterable gift and manifold goodness, Thou didst come to Cana ofGalilee, and didst bless the marriage there, to make manifest that it isThy will that there should be lawful marriage and procreation. DoThou, the same all-holy Master, accept the prayers of us Thy servants.As Thou wast present there, be Thou also present here, with Thineinvisible protection. Bless this marriage, and grant to these Thyservants, and , a peaceful life, length of days, chastity,mutual love in the bond of peace, long-lived offspring, gratitude fromtheir children, a crown of glory that does not fade away. Graciouslygrant that they may see their children’s children. Preserve their bed

11unassailed, and give them of the dew of heaven from on high, and ofthe fatness of the earth. Fill their houses with wheat, wine, and oil,and with every good thing, so that they may give in turn to those inneed; and grant also to those here present with them all thosepetitions which are for their salvation.For Thou art the God of mercies, and bounties, and lovetowards mankind, and unto Thee we ascribe glory: to the Father, andto the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages ofages.Choir:Amen.Deacon:Let us pray to the Lord.Choir:Lord have mercy.Priest:Blessed art Thou, O Lord our God, priest of mystical and undefiledmarriage, and the ordainer of the law of the marriage of the body, thepreserver of immortality, and the provider of the good things of life;the same master, Who in the beginning didst make man and establishhim as a king over creation, and didst say: “It is not good that manshould be alone on upon the earth; let us make a helper fit for him.”Taking one of his ribs Thou didst fashion woman; and when Adamsaw her, he said: “This is at last bone of my bones and flesh of myflesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out ofman.” For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, andshall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; whattherefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder. Do Thounow also, O Master, our Lord and our God, send down Thy heavenlygrace upon these Thy servants, and ; grant that this Thyhandmaid may be subject to her husband in all things, and that thisThy servant may be the head of his wife, so that they may liveaccording to Thy will. Bless them, O Lord our God, as Thou didstbless Abraham and Sarah. Bless them, O Lord our God, as Thou didstbless Isaac and Rebecca. Bless them, O Lord our God, as Thou didstbless Jacob and all the patriarchs. Bless them, O Lord our God, asThou didst bless Joseph and Aseneth. Bless them, O Lord our God, asThou didst bless Moses and Zipporah. Bless them, O Lord our God,as Thou didst bless Joachim and Anna. Bless them, O Lord our God,as Thou didst bless Zachariah and Elizabeth. Preserve them, O Lordour God, as Thou didst preserve Noah in the ark. Preserve them, OLord our God, as Thou didst preserve Jonah in the belly of the whale.Preserve them, O Lord our God, as Thou didst preserve the three holychildren from the fire, sending down upon them dew from heaven;

12and let that gladness come upon them which the blessed Helen hadwhen she found the precious Cross. Remember them, O Lord ourGod, as Thou didst remember Enoch, Shem, Elijah. Remember them,O Lord our God, as Thou didst remember Thy forty holy martyrs,sending down upon them crowns from heaven. Remember them, OLord our God, and the parents who have nurtured them, for theprayers of parents make firm the foundations of houses. Remember,O Lord our God, Thy servants, the groomsman and the bridesmaid ofthe bridal pair, who have come together in this joy. Remember, OLord our God, Thy servant , and Thy handmaid , andbless them. Grant them of the fruit of their bodies, fair children,concord of soul and body. Exalt them like the cedars of Lebanon, likea luxuriant vine. Give them offspring in number like unto full ears ofgrain; so that, having enough of all things, they may abound in everywork that is good and acceptable unto Thee. Let them see theirchildren’s children, like olive shoots around their table; so that,finding favor in Thy sight, they may shine like the stars of heaven, inThee, our God.For unto Thee are due all glory, honor and worship: to theFather, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever and untoages of ages.Choir:Amen.Deacon:Let us pray to the Lord.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Priest:O holy God, Who didst form man from the dust, and didst fashionwoman from his rib, and didst join her unto him as a helper, for itseemed good to Thy majesty that man should not be alone uponearth: Do Thou, the same Lord, stretch out now also Thy hand fromThy holy dwelling-place, and unite this Thy servant, , and thisThy handmaid, ; for by Thee is the husband joined unto thewife. Unite them in one mind; wed them into one flesh, granting tothem of the fruit of the body and the procreation of fair children.For Thine is the majesty, and Thine are the Kingdom and thepower and the glory: of the Father, and of the Son, and of the HolySpirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages.Choir:Amen.

13The priest takes the crowns, which recall those with which the “martyrs,” or witnesses ofChrist, are crowned in heaven, and crowns first the bridegroom, saying:Priest:The servant of God, , is crowned unto the handmaiden ofGod, , in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of theHoly Spirit.Choir:Amen.So also he crowns the bride, saying:Priest:The handmaiden of God, , is crowned unto the servant ofGod, , in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of theHoly Spirit.Choir:Amen.Then he blesses them three times, saying each time:Priest:O Lord our God, crown them with glory and honor.

14The ProkeimenonDeacon:Let us attend!Priest:Peace be unto all.Reader:And to your spirit.Deacon:Wisdom!Reader:The Prokeimenon in the eighth tone:Thou hast set upon their heads crowns of precious stones; theyasked life of Thee, and Thou gavest it them.Thou hast set upon their heads crowns of precious stones; they askedlife of Thee, and Thou gavest it them.Choir:SopranoAltoTenorBass&?&?jœœJjœœJj jœœ œœJ JThou hastœj œjœ œJ Jjœ œ.œ œ.Jjœ œ .œJthey asked lifeœœ .œ .œsetjœœ œœJup - onœj œœ œJjœ œœ œœœJofœ œœœJ œœ œ œ œtheirœœ Thee, heads jœ œœ œJœ.œ.Common Chantœœœj œœœJ crowns of pre - cious stones;œœœœœ .œ œ œœ œand Thou gav - estœœœœ œœitœœ œœœUww them.wwuReader:Yea, Thou wilt make them most blessed forever; Thou wilt makethem glad with the joy of Thy presence.Choir:Thou hast set upon their heads crowns of precious stones; they askedlife of Thee, and Thou gavest it them.Reader:Thou hast set upon their heads crowns of precious stones Choir: they asked life of Thee, and Thou gavest it them.

15The EpistleDeacon:Wisdom!Reader:The reading from the Epistle of the holy Apostle Paul to theEphesians.Deacon:Let us attend.Reader:(Eph. 5:20-33) Brethren, give thanks always for everything in thename of our Lord Jesus Christ to God the Father. Be subject to oneanother out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to yourhusbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife asChrist is head of the church, His body, and is Himself its Savior. Asthe church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject ineverything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christloved the church and gave Himself up for her, that He might sanctifyher, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, thatthe church might be presented before Him in splendor, without spotor wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and withoutblemish. Even so husbands should love their wives as their ownbodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no man ever hatedhis own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, as Christ does thechurch, because we are members of His body. “For this reason aman shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, andthe two shall become one.” This is a great mystery, and I take it tomean Christ and the church; however let each one of you love hisown wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects herhusband.Priest:Peace be unto you, reader.Reader:And to your spirit. Alleluia! Alleluia! Alleluia!Thou, O Lord, shalt protect us and preserve us from this generationforever! (Ps.12)Choir:Alleluia! (3x)

16Alleluia Before the GospelSopranoAltoTenorBass&b œœ œ œœAl - le?b& b œœ .? .bAl-luœœœœœ œ œœœœœ--œœœœ-ia,-œ œœ œAl - leœœœœ- le - luœœ -œœœœ œœœœ œœ n œœœœ# -Traditional œlu -œwwia!wwwThe GospelDeacon:Wisdom! Let us attend! Let us listen to the Holy Gospel.Priest:Peace be unto all.Choir:And to your spirit.& b œœ?œœAndbDeacon:œœtoœœœœ your spir - it.œœ The reading from the Holy Gospel according to Saint John.ia,

17Glory to Thee, O Lord, glory to Thee.Choir:& b œœ?œœGlorybœœtoThee, O Lord,œœ œ œœ œglo - rytoœ œœ œwwThee.wwPriest:Let us attend!Deacon:(John 2:1-12) In those days there was a marriage at Cana in Galilee,and the mother of Jesus was there; Jesus also was invited to themarriage, with His disciples. When the wine failed, the mother ofJesus said to Him, “They have no wine.” And Jesus said to her, “Owoman, what have you to do with Me? My hour has not yet come.”His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever He tells you.” Nowsix stone jars were standing there, for the Jewish rites of purification,each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, “Fill thejars with water.” And they filled them up to the brim. He said tothem, “Now draw some out, and take it to the steward of the feast.”So they took it. When the steward of the feast tasted the water nowbecome wine, and did not know where it came from (though theservants who had drawn the water knew), the steward of the feastcalled the bridegroom and said to him, “Every man serves the goodwine first; and when men have drunk freely, then the poor wine; butyou have kept the good wine until now.” This, the first of His signs,Jesus did at Cana in Galilee, and manifested His glory; and Hisdisciples believed in Him.Choir:Glory to Thee, O Lord, glory to Thee.

18The Augmented Litany&bSopranoAlto?TenorBass& b .?œœœœ Lord,havemerœœb .Lord,b . .& b w. .?b .Lord,œœœœ- -œœœœcy.Lord,have have mer œœ œ .cy,Lord,œœ œ wwœ œ have merwwœ .ww-wwœ œww œœ A. have mer.cy. œœcy.www- œœ merœœ“Monastic” -cy, ww-men.wwwDeacon:Let us say with all our soul and with all our mind, let us say.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Deacon:O Lord almighty, the God of our Fathers, we pray Thee, hearken andhave mercy.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Deacon:Have mercy on us, O God, according to Thy great goodness, we prayThee, hearken and have mercy.Choir:Lord, have mercy. (3x)Deacon:Again we pray for mercy, life, peace, health, salvation, and visitationfor the servants of God, and , (and he mentionswhomever else he wishes), and for the pardon and remission of theirsins.

19Choir:Lord, have mercy. (3x)Priest:For Thou art a merciful God, and lovest mankind, and unto Thee weascribe glory: to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit,now and ever and unto ages of ages.Choir:Amen.Deacon:Let us pray to the Lord.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Priest:O Lord our God, Who in Thy saving dispensation didst vouchsafe byThy presence in Cana of Galilee to declare marriage honorable: DoThou, the same Lord, now also maintain in peace and concord Thyservants, and , whom Thou hast pleased to jointogether. Cause their marriage to be honorable. Preserve their bedblameless. Mercifully grant that they may live together in purity; andenable them to reach a ripe old age, walking in Thy commandmentswith a pure heart.For Thou art our God, the God of mercy and salvation, andunto Thee we ascribe glory: to the Father, and to the Son, and to theHoly Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages.Choir:Amen.The Litany before the Lord’s PrayerDeacon:Help us, save us, have mercy on us, and keep us, O God, by Thygrace.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Deacon:That the whole day may be perfect, holy, peaceful, and sinless, let usask of the Lord.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Deacon:An angel of peace, a faithful guide, a guardian of our souls andbodies, let us ask of the Lord.Choir:Grant it, O Lord.

20Deacon:Pardon and remission of our sins and transgressions, let us ask of theLord.Choir:Grant it, O Lord.Deacon:All things that are good and profitable for our souls, and peace for theworld, let us ask of the Lord.Choir:Grant it, O Lord.Deacon:That we may complete the remaining time of our life in peace andrepentance, let us ask of the Lord.Choir:Grant it, O Lord.Deacon:A Christian ending to our life: painless, blameless, and peaceful; anda good defense before the dread judgment seat of Christ, let us ask ofthe Lord.Choir:Grant it, O Lord.Deacon:Having asked for the unity of the faith, and communion of the HolySpirit, let us commend ourselves and each other, and all our life untoChrist our God.Choir:To Thee, O Lord.Priest:And make us worthy, O Master, that with boldness and withoutcondemnation we may dare to call on Thee, the heavenly God, asFather, and to say:The Lord’s PrayerChoir:Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name. Thy kingdomcome. Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this dayour daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive thosewho trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliverus from the evil one.

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23Priest:For Thine is the Kingdom, and the power, and the glory: of theFather, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, now and ever and untoages of ages.Choir:Amen.Priest:Peace be unto all.Choir:And to your spirit.Deacon:Bow your heads unto the Lord.Choir:To Thee, O Lord.Then the Common Cup is brought, and the priest blesses it.Deacon:Let us pray to the Lord.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Priest:O God, Who hast created all things by Thy might, and hast madefirm the world, and adornest the crown of all that Thou hast made:Bless now, with Thy spiritual blessing, this common cup, which Thoudost give to those who are now united for a communion of marriage.For blessed is Thy name, and glorified is Thy Kingdom, of theFather, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, now and ever and untoages of ages.Choir:Amen.Then, taking the Cup in his hand, the priest gives it to them three times: first to thebridegroom and then to the bride. Then immediately the priest takes them, thegroomsmen behind them holding their crowns, and leads them in a circle three timesaround the lectern. And the priest or the choir sings:Choir:Rejoice, O Isaiah! A Virgin is with child, and shall bear a Son,Emmanuel, both God and man: and Orient is His name; Whommagnifying we call the Virgin blessed.O Holy Martyrs, who fought the good fight and have received yourcrowns: Entreat the Lord that he will have mercy on our souls.Glory to Thee, O Christ-God, the Apostles’ boast, the Martyrs’ joy,whose preaching was the consubstantial Trinity.

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26Then, taking the crown of the Bridegroom, the priest says:Priest:Be exalted like Abraham, O Bridegroom, and be blessed like Isaac,and multiply like Jacob, walking in peace, and keeping God’scommandments in righteousness.Then, taking the crown of the Bride, the priest says:And you, O Bride, be exalted like Sarah, and exult like Rebecca, andmultiply like Rachel; and rejoice in your husband, fulfilling theconditions of the law: for this is well-pleasing to God.Deacon:Let us pray to the Lord.Choir:Lord, have mercy.Priest:O God, our God, Who didst come to Cana of Galilee, and didst blessthere the marriage feast: Bless,

The Service of Betrothal The betrothal is celebrated in the narthex, or in the back part of the church. Deacon: Bless, Master. Priest: Blessed is our God always, now and ever and unto ages of ages. Choir: Amen. The Great Litany Deacon: In peace let us pray to the Lord. Choir: Lord, have mercy. Deacon: For the peace from above and for the salvation of our souls, let us