Ukrainian Dating Guide "Avoiding Scams"

5 But there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of success and decrease your chances of getting ripped off. Don’t assume everything you see or you are being told is real and factual. The scammers will “fall in love” with you within a few emails. Don’t rush into anything. Ensure you are using a legitimate, trustworthy dating site. There are many “fly by night” operations floating around on the internet just waiting for potential victims. Finally, the most important tip in my opinion, do not send money for visas, tickets, emergencies, pay off loans, or for any other reason. If you are convinced that the person is legitimate, go to that person’s country and meet them in a very public place for your first meeting. Just keep the above information in the back of your mind when you are searching for the right women on an international dating site. But also remember, they will post profiles on noninternational sites as well. These scammers are relentless and will continuously try new tactics and tricks to find their next target. I encourage you to take note of the advice I have given and take your time. Five potential red flags in Ukrainian online dating The scenario is every Western man’s worst nightmare: “I was contacted by an amazing woman from Ukraine. She was beautiful and funny, a full 23 years younger than me. I just knew she was the one! It was love at first sight”. But the reality is something different . Unfortunately, it may be sometimes too good to be true. After investing (a lot of) time and money in what you think is your one true love, “your perfect Ukrainian lady Natalia” stops contacting you. From my personal experience, I can say that the men have since gone on to find love online. You can avoid making the same mistakes by recognizing these five red flags. Red Flag #1: too big age difference The first red flag is a very young woman from Ukraine or Russia contacting an older man from a Western country. As for me, it is very strange if a 20 year old beauty from Ukraine contacts first a man who is much older than her (20-25-30 year age difference is extreme big and may be the reason for problems and misunderstanding in a Western-Ukrainian relationship). But I have to mention that not every young Ukrainian woman who contacts an older man is a scammer. On the other hand, she should be viewed with caution. Some readers told me that several beautiful Ukrainian ladies wrote to them first that they really wanted to talk to them as soon as possible. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

6 Well, we should realize this is the 21st century and all. Women can initiate a relationship without being a scammer; however you must think about the age difference in depth and decide if you are ready for that or not. Be careful. Red Flag #2: weak anti-scam system on your Ukrainian dating site Many newbies make this silly and costly mistake, namely: they begin to use the Ukrainian dating site without having made a detailed online research on its services. The fact is that many International online dating services have a serious problem with scamming. This is a huge red flag. Some International online dating sites make it easier for scammers to take root and make them more difficult to find. Dating sites that allow multiple accounts from the same IP address make it easier for a scammer to set up many accounts. Red Flag #3: falling in love – too fast, too furious The next sign I should have seen is “falling in love” by the third letter. I am sure you know this story: two people from two different countries write back – forth for a few days before the man gets a message that the Ukrainian lady is falling hard for him, that she is in love and she wants to move to his home country to spend her life with him. Happy end of this online dating story? I do not think so! You do? We all are adult people and may not believe such messages that the woman/man falls in love after a short online mail communication without meeting in person and at least hearing the voice of the woman or man. Red Flag #4: you are my Mr. Right In the same spirit, another red flag is if the Ukrainian man just knows that you are the man for her. You know that patience is one of the most important keys to a successful & happy Western-Ukrainian relationship. Thus when you try to slow things down and see that the woman tells you she has this feeling that you are destined to be together, you must view this woman with a big caution. You may not believe if the woman from Ukraine tells you she just knows that you are going to grow old together. Red Flag #4: exaggerated literary picture of your future together Painting an attractive picture of where the future will lead is another common red flag. It is not usual if the Ukrainian woman for marriage say you things like “we can grow old on the porch together” and “we’ll travel the world. I will show you all the sites” in her third message. Red Flag #5: nude or revealing photos Furthermore, throwing in the attractive pictures of the Ukrainian woman with every message is not a normal behavior in the Ukrainian dating field. Of particular concern are nude or very revealing photos. Genuine women with serious intentions do not do something like this. I hope if you know these things, you will never send a Ukrainian dating scammer several thousand dollars or invest your costly time, your heart and your emotions in a relationship that doesn’t really exist. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

7 The simplest tip how to recognize a scammer Clients of Ukrainian dating agencies have found out that the Ukrainian girls who they attempt to communicate with are actually spammers who may have no connection at all with Ukraine and may not even be female. The moment any girl who you meet online asks for money, that is a red flag that she is a scammer. These scammers actually appear with different names, but with the same photos, on several dating sites. Their only goal is to swindle you out of your hard-earned money or to add your E-mail address to a scam, online gambling, porn or online pharmacy mailing list. Their phone numbers are not in service or just not listed, and their e-mail addresses are from Russian or international free E-mail providers that allow multiple free accounts. Chances are that if you are writing to katya d@mail.ru, ten other men have ten other E-mail addresses under names like Olychka m, Lena b, Irochka j and the like, and all of the messages are going to the same person who will then add you to some mailing list or another or send you a litany of sob stories. These scamming address collectors masquerade as exiled Nigerian princes when they are not busy trying to hide behind pictures of attractive Slavic students that they copied from Facebook or its former Soviet competitors. Do not send one cent to anyone who you have not met in person; no legitimate Ukrainian girl will ask you for money or anything else before meeting you as she does not want to be associated with these spammer scammers. I am a Ukrainian woman, and I know that the Ukrainian people have come a long way since the fall of the Soviet Union, and no legitimate Ukrainian girl wants to be seen as a gold-digger or worse. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

8 Why does a Ukrainian Woman Ask You for Money? On the weekend, I did some research and found an interesting forum post. Here is the story of a Western man: This story made me sad. The man had his hopes; and now he has only disappointment and doubt I often get mails from my readers who have experienced the same thing. You meet a special woman online, communicate with her, develop romantic feelings for her, go to Ukraine and date her. And after the first meeting, you get a request to give her some money Ukrainian women are some of the most beautiful in the world, and any man who has made the right moves to have one grace them with their company is a lucky man indeed. The question has arisen before when people are looking for Ukrainian dating advice, “Why does a Ukrainian woman ask you for money?” Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

9 When I read such stories, I am taken a back!!! A Ukrainian woman is a proud woman, with a lineage of hard work ethics behind her. She would never consider just arbitrarily asking for money to be paid to her without a good reason. Anyone who has spent any time with a beautiful Ukrainian woman would know that her independence would clearly get in the way of a handout. It is in my opinion that if this happens, she is just testing you. How quickly are you going to dole out money to her or any woman? There is a difference between her begging for money, and you being a mark for a girl looking to make a quick dollar. Be careful, but realize that if she is asking, it is a test of your vulnerability. There is also the possibility that this is another kind of test. Many women come overseas and when they meet their man, they are immediately put to work. They are sent to work for cleaners, waitressing, or even dancing to make money for their husband. If she immediately asks for money, perhaps she is just making sure that you are stable enough financially to support her. She is going to be a constant companion, but your joint happiness should be important to both of you. Lastly, the saddest truth is that you may have been at the end of a scam. She is clearly not in this for the companionship, and you are beyond Ukrainian dating advice, and should be contacting the authorities. Make sure to be as honest with them as possible, to guarantee that you walk away from this with your head held high, and no blemishes on your legal record. A fiery and powerful Ukrainian woman can be the jewel that sits upon your arm at night and a loving companion at home. If she asks you for money, take a moment before you answer her; make sure you have considered her reasons. In the end it will help both of your long-term happiness. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

10 Tips how to react if a Ukrainian or Russian bride asks you for money What do you do when your Ukrainian bride asks you for money prior to the marriage? It’s a situation that many men face in the world of Russian and Ukrainian (rather: International) online dating. Two possible scenarios There are two scenarios that must be addressed if a Russian and Ukrainian bride asks for money. The first scenario is one where you have already met and visited with your Russian and Ukrainian woman face-to-face. You have spent time together. You know her as a person, you know her surroundings, her culture, and to some extent, both her values and economic situation. The second scenario, which will be discussed later, is one where you have not yet met your prospective bride from Ukraine or Russia. So far, interactions with this woman have been over the internet, the phone, and possibly via snail mail. The only things you know about this woman is what she has told you and you have no way to verify her claims. Scenario #1: if you have met the woman in person and she asks you for money If you have met your bride in Ukraine or Russia, and are convinced she is the one, having a Ukrainian woman ask you for money must be looked at on an individual case. Have you asked this woman to quit her job to learn English or focus on some other task that is important to you? Are you aware of any special circumstances, ones that you were able to observe and verify during your visit that could be causing a legitimate hardship? In such cases there is a simple litmus test that you can rely on the help make your decision. Since you already know her culture, if her fiancé were a local, would he be likely to pitch in and help? And, if your bride was in the same country as you, what would you be doing in the same situation? Some suggestions if you find yourself wanting to help. If your bride quit her job in order to take English classes to make communication easier? Offer to pay for the classes and perhaps a stipend to subsidize her lost wages. If she needs money for a plane ticket here to visit, buy the ticket, or a portion of it, without sending her cash. If she or a family member needs medical care, pay for it directly with the provider. In these ways you are certain that the money is going directly to the need at hand and cannot be misappropriated. However, if you implicitly trust your foreign bride, sending cash is ultimately your decision. Just be aware that many men have been scammed out of considerable funds under such circumstances. Scenario #2: if you have not yet met the woman in person and she asks you for money If however, you have not yet met the Ukrainian and Russian woman who is asking for money, proceed with extreme caution. While there may be legitimate need there, it is not your responsibility to provide for this woman. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

11 Additionally, many online scams and internet fraud programs operate in just such a fashion to take advantage of unsuspecting men. If you truly believe a potential foreign is legitimate, tell her the only way you would consider such a request is to meet in person, face to face, first. Afterwards, all the caveats previously mentioned apply. The most common reasons to ask money are following: 1. Money problems (the woman promises of course to return your money to you soon) My note: in Ukrainian culture, it’s not appropriate to ask a stranger you’ve never met to give money to you if you have a money problem. So you have not to help the woman in this case. 2. A Ukrainian and Russian woman wants to study English (or your native language) 3. Illness (She/her mother/father/children is/are ill). My note: in Ukrainian culture, it’s not appropriate to ask a stranger you’ve never met to help you. So you have not to help the woman in this case. In conclusion, I want to mention that most sincere Ukrainian and Russian brides will not have a sense of entitlement. They will be interested in you as a person and not for what you have in your wallet. While marriage to you will greatly enhance this woman’s future as your wife, you do not want to be involved with a woman whose affections needed to be purchased in advance. That’s not love in a local relationship and it’s certainly not love in a long distance one. Three simple tips how to react if a Ukrainian or Russian bride asks you for money: 1. make an Internet research (so you can find out if she is a scam or not) 2. tell her that you have not to pay for her English classes, etc. and ask for her opinion if it’s not appropriate in Ukrainian culture to ask a stranger you’ve never met to give money to you 3. tell her that it is important to meet each other in person and then you can decide if the relationship can work or not as well as you wish to support her financially. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

12 Four Types of Ukrainian & Russian Dating Scammers There are many Ukrainian and Russian women who are truly looking for love. But there are also many on dating sites who seek targets for scams, which makes it hard for us women who are honest in our pursuit of love. I know of women who do anything to attract men only to let them down. The scams are often a waste of money or time and can easily be avoided by keeping your eyes open. Four Types of Ukrainian & Russian Dating Scammers: Type 1: “I am just after your money” The most popular scam is where the girl hooks you in with her looks or charm and is very easy to get along with. During this short period there is much to enjoy. While you think you are getting closer, she’s maneuvering closer to your wallet. All of a sudden, things take a dramatic turn and she needs cash ASAP. While there are many different reasons these scammers use for needing money, it should stand out to you that someone you are dating or getting to know is asking you for money. Crossing this boundary should be an automatic dismissal from your life. This should be rule number one for guys who are dating. You are not an ATM. She must have that part of her life together when trying to date. If this scam becomes apparent to you, run for the hills. Type 2: “I want gifts, I do not want a genuine relationship” Another con is the girl who seems to be eager to be with you but wants to keep her “options open.” She may desire for you to provide her with an all-expense paid trip or various gifts and many of these girls are blunt about it. While she’s getting things from you, her other “options” are doing the same. There are actually women who do this and have no careers and no love in their hearts for the men that they date. Unless you are a billionaire & prepared to pay to play with this kitten, this scam can ruin you financially in a matter of weeks or months. Type 3: “I am just a letter writer” Next in line are the ladies who like the attention that you provide them but they never seem to be able to meet you. If they always have an excuse not to meet, they are just not that into you and likely have someone else they’d prefer to be with. Some have children out of wedlock while others will use you to make themselves feel better. Others are not attractive inside or out (and know it) and this is another reason they won’t meet you. Take the hint and don’t cater to these types. Type 4: “I am just curious” The curious types are also complete wastes of your time. They are scammers too because they join dating sites but never actually date. They are just looking without any intent of going out or looking for love. Some of these girls will waste hours of their time looking at profiles for entertainment apparently. But if they don’t respect their time, they will not respect yours. You are worth more than this and if she’s not up to it, cut her off and move on. Copyright 2013 by Krystyna Trushyna – UkrainianDatingBlog.com

13 Nine Tips on How to Identify and Avoid Ukrainian Pro-Daters Ukrainian online dating is intended to be a safe environment yet oftentimes when dating people forget to look for the “Red Flags”. There are always red flags that we should have seen but at times they are not noticeable. From my personal experience, I know that online dating can be frustrating as well as lead to hurt feelings and even financial loss. In fact, I know that there are Ukrainian daters that do not send out red flags and unfortunately leave you unaware. In the first stages of dating a Ukrainian pro-dater will communicate effectively and never trigger the typical red flags like asking for money. These daters encourage you to make a first visit and in the end will leave you baffled. Yet there are ways to avoid the Ukrainian pr

Introduction: Ukrainian dating scam The topic of this guide is spam in the Ukrainian dating industry. Many of my readers have become or are victims of Ukrainian dating scammers. And that's a sad fact that there are still thousands of scammers who take advantage of lonely men and shatter their dream of finding a soul mate for life.