Forgive To Live FREE - Spirit Edu

Forgive to Live FREEspiritual and religious leaders, if they have not resolved their pain and shadow,often lead from their pain.The acts of violence that humans are capable of perpetrating upon each other,out of their pain, are nothing less than absolutely horrifying.The more we heal, forgive, and mature, spiritually and emotionally, the better offsociety is. YOU as a healed, whole human are a gift to society. Every time anyone of us practices these forgiveness tools, and we clear the emotional andenergetic space between ourselves and others, we affect the whole. As you heal,you take others with you and not just those you forgive. Since you are part of thewhole, the whole is touched by you. This is the way it works.In this course, I am asking you to take a big leap of faith and action. I am askingyou to move in the direction of taking responsibility for your life rather thanblaming. However for some, maybe you, there is a level of pain and sufferingthat came at an incredibly young age and at the hands of trusted familymembers. If this is your reality, your responsibility falls more in the realm ofwhat you want to do with it now since you cannot undo the act or the past. Youcan, however, through the application of some practices, undo the lasting painand the current effects. There is only one time, NOW, and in this NOW is whenall shift happens.The weak can never forgive.Together we can come fromVICTIM TO VICTOR.Forgiveness is the attributeof the strong.Mahatma GandhiDarkness cannot drive outdarkness; only light can dothat. Hate cannot drive outhate; only love can do that.Page8Martin Luther King, Jr.The world, as we witness it, needs moreindividuals who can positively choose thedirection of their lives and live by design andnot by default. The world needs YOU to be allyou can be, to be the most beautiful, potent, andfree person you can be. And the world reallyneeds each of us to positively infect others withour desire to be whole, complete, and free.Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020

Forgive to Live FREEBe contagious, with love. As it is said, God’s gift to you is life,your gift to God is what you do with that life.I have taught a similar course on forgiveness, entitled “No Mud, No Lotus”. Whythat title? Well, if you did not know before, the lotus flower (which in myopinion is one of the most beautiful flowers there is) grows out of the mud of thepond that it is in. Without the mud and the muck, these flowers do not grow. Thesame is true for you and your beauty. All that has come before in your life, all thepain, the stories, and the memories are the foundation of you becoming the Youof Choice.AS METAPHYSCIANS we must learn: It is important that we understand how we got where we are.To understand the use of the sub-conscious and how it relates to the workwe are doing.How our relationship with the Divine is necessary for healing.How our healing will benefit our family and friends without doing orsaying anything to them. (More to come about this)REMEMBER THIS THROUGHOUT: THERE IS NO PRIVATE GOOD!All our work here is worth the effort, because in the end, you will be leftstanding on steady, sturdy ground deeply rooted in a place of beauty.ASSIGNMENT:Even now, before the work begins, start to imagine what your life would be likeif you were less angry, fearful, resentful. Really, right now, STOP reading, SITback and IMAGINE your life free of all those nasty feelings and relationshipsyou have that were born out of pain and disappointment. All things get createdtwice, first in your mind/imagination and then in form. Your brain does notknow the difference between real and imagined. Imagining your new reality isthe first step to experiencing it.Go ahead – FIVE MINUTES OF IMAGINATION.Now write a few words here to describe what you imagined:Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020Page9

Forgive to Live FREENow, out of this time of imagination, write three key words that stand out for you thatwill support you as a touch stone. (Example: Freedom, love, healing)My touch stone words are:, ,PREPARING THE VESSELTo prepare the vessel, which is you, you are asked to begin TODAY with these spiritualpractices. Throughout the course you will be encouraged to increase your practices, butthese practices are critical as they are a support for your overall study within thiscourse.Page2. Non-gossipa. Not only is gossip a low-level form of communication, the main problemwith it is that it is totally socially acceptable. So the ill affect of gossip goesunnoticed. Gossip between individuals causes major distrust. Gossipallows us to be an expert when we are not, to be an authority when we arenot and to disown our responsibility for creating unhealthy relationships.3. Non-complaininga. Not complaining is not the same as avoiding asking for what you want.The practice of non-complaining is a practice – once again, of trainingyour mind to be healthy, fruitful and a safe place.101. Non-judgementa. There is a lot to be said about judgment, discernment, making assessmentsand such. This practice is not an attempt to have you be a monk suddenlynor to be someone without opinions. It is a practice of watching yourmind and how you appoint blame or fault or find someone in their wrongdoings. A mind that automatically judges, places blame or finds fault,isnot necessarily one that is fertile for healthy thinking. THIS IS CRITICALTO ALL OUR WORK TOGETHER.Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020

Forgive to Live FREEAll the suggested spiritual practices will benefit you, not only during thisjourney, but they will serve you ongoing, throughout your life.This work is only as beneficial as your commitment to it. Taking time to meditateand treat daily is also a great foundation for you. Add some journaling andspiritual reading and you will have a solid set of spiritual practices that willsupport your health and wholeness.Why? Why go through the pain of forgiveness?Before beginning any forgiveness practice, begin by getting in touchwith your WHY! A compelling why will help you to rise above yourresistance. Sometimes we do not want to let go, sometimes we do notwant to let someone off the hook because we are still invested in beingangry and we want others to suffer as much as we have. Often, we haveinvestment in our identity with our anger and it is the only way weknow ourselves. If you are entertaining the false belief that by remainingangry or by continuously holding someone at fault, you are protectingyourself, you are surely mistaken and are subscribing to a system thatcontinues your pain. Everyone must deal with their own pain, guilt, andshame.Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020PageYou have been living with your pain, your judgments, and yourrighteousness your entire life. Clearly, you are not served by these thingsor you would not be moved to change it, to heal, to learn to forgive. A lotof your personality has been designed around your pain, memories,beliefs, and habits. If we liken it to a virus in your computer, you canprobably understand this concept easily. Your computer will continue towork and do basic things, but if it has a virus, that virus undermines thehealth and the workability of the computer itself. When you have storiesyou give power to, and choose not to forgive the people associated withthose stories, you allow the people and the pain to be your authority.Practicing forgiveness helps you take your power back.11Even if you can find agreement in your tale of woe, you are not served bythat agreement. Telling your story to someone who is willing to agreewith you does not serve you, it works against you. Any agreementregarding your story only helps to solidify the story and its impact. Forthis reason, letting go of your pain will be easier if you have established aWHY. If you establish your WHY, and it is compelling, it will help you tomove through the process.

Forgive to Live FREEWE MUST BUILD OUR WHY.Ponder this: When you yearn for the freedom that anger, judgment, and blameblock, that yearning will drive you forward. It is imperative that you have theconscious realization of the importance of forgiveness. It is also important toremember that YOU choosing to forgive is not the same as letting someone off thehook for their actions. That is not your concern. We all live by right ofconsciousness. Everyone must meet their own fate on their own time. This is notfor you to worry about. Concern yourself only with your own freedom, yourown love, your own health.*(Note: if the actions you are forgiving can harm another human, that is a wholedifferent situation. If there are children involved, responsible actions should be taken.)Because you might be someone with trauma in your past, please GO SLOWLY,but still go. Move gently in the direction of your freedom. Stay present to yourheart. It will take courage to face down your history, but you can do this. You arenot alone, and I am not just referring to this class. I am referring to the presenceof Spirit in your life and to the shoulders of brave and powerful individuals whohave gone before you.No matter what has happened, you have a power and resources, beyond yourhuman imagination, around you and within you. All of life is working in yourfavor, even when it does not seem to be true. Hang in there, go slow. If you donot have a set of spiritual practices, create one that you can commit to; this willbe the ground to hold you strong.Some whys that might work for you:I want my emotional freedom back.I want to be healthy again.I want to be free to love and express myself.I want to stop being so angry.I want to break the patterns of my life.I WANT TO BE HAPPY.Page12 Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020

Forgive to Live FREEASSIGNMENT:Take a moment right now, imagine being free of the pain and begin to formulate yourWHY. Write it on the lines below:I choose to practice forgiveness because:Now, take all of the reasons from your notes and reduce them down to ONE singlestatement. Make it bold and definite albeit short and to the point.For example: I now choose to walk through this forgiveness practice so I can embracemy freedom and my Divine Birthright.One Line Affirmation:-Page13!Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020

Forgive to Live FREEBlame keeps you captive, so STOP blaming.Taking blame or placing blame is simply not the same as taking responsibility. Withblame comes righteousness and righteousness is blinding. Instead let us take a soberlook at who is responsible and for what. Let’s do this as objectively as possible and findtruth.Practicing inquiry:There is nothing as good as a well-placed and well-composed question to openyou up, to learn something new and to free yourself of an old way of being. Oneof the main lessons you will learn throughout Forgive to Live is how YOURCURRENT STATE OF BEING IS THE RESULT OF YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS &UNHEALED EMOTIONAL ENERGY – THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS to this.Use this list to begin your inquiry: Were you abused or neglected as a child? (This can be emotionally, sexually or through physical punishment.)o By a family member?o By a religious teacher of sorts?o By a trusting friend of the family, teacher, coach?Were those responsible for raising you alcoholics or users of other substances?As a person of color have you lived the effects of racism? (This is assumed)As a LGBT individual, did you suffer as you came out? Have you come out?Are you angry about the current or old political system?Have you been unfairly treated at work, maybe released from your job in anuntimely manner?Have you ever been betrayed?Did your spouse cheat on you? Did you cheat on your spouse?Do you experience a general sense of life not working, which leaves you feelingmad at the world?Are you angry with yourself? Are you judging your old behavior? Are youdealing with shame from bad decisions and actions?NEVER BE DISCOURAGED BY YOUR YESES, THEY ARE NOT YOUR REALITY!Page14Forgive to Live will support you in finding your freedom!Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020

Forgive to Live FREEStart by answering this question: Where have you felt or are currentlyfeeling like a victim – even slightly?Feeling like a victim? yes noIf yes, list where this is true for you. (List notes but not the whole story.)Assignment: Taking InventorySet aside some time to create an inventory of all the people in your life with whomyou have unfinished business. Take your time doing this. Ask yourself thesequestions:1. Is there a critically important person who left a devastating impact upon you?2. Have you and any individual ever co-created your current state of upset thatyou have not let go of yet?3. Are you dealing with broken promises or someone who did not live up toyour uncommunicated desires and expectations?4. Is your self-image stained from your own choices and behavior?Note: Your reality about these people, including yourself, might live only in yourown mind and heart. Because we are only dealing with what lives within us, weare not concerned with the accuracy of memories.Because this is for your eyes only, record here any of the people that you feel victim to or hurtby in any way. (PRACTICE RADICAL HONESTY HERE, ANY WITHHOLDING WILL NOTSUPPORT YOUR FREEDOM.)Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020Page15This list is different from the one above which was about feeling like a victim. This list is aboutanyone with whom you have unfinished business at all. REMINDER: WE LIST TO RELEASEAND GET FREE. (Use another sheet of paper if this is not enough)

Forgive to Live FREEThis list above represents the many ways that we collect names of individuals wethink are responsible for our pain, and for whom we must practice forgiveness.Let us acknowledge, at this point, that you might have been impacted by somevery unskilled humans; their impact is obvious. Others might have a lesserimpact, but you still have a stain on your heart. Until the time comes that weforgive and release these individuals, they remain a cause to our pain. Rememberholding on prevents freedom.Now let us look at some of the smaller offenses that we track.Is there anyone in your life who made a promise to you and broke it? Did this brokenpromise lead to a greater disappointment? Did it have a long-term affect that youdid not see coming? Do you find people to be untrustworthy? Do you questionpromises made?You see, even these very subtle upsets, disappointments, broken promises canleave you feeling angry. Until we consciously chose to release these things, theyleave their mark in us at a deep, and often unnoticed, level.To become free of something – anything, we must first become conscious of it.The following exercise will appear simple, but I assure you, practiced in thenature in which it was meant, it will help you to begin loosening up on the holdsome individuals have on you.There are many different levels of influences that cause pain and suffering. Thefollowing process is meant to be used with individuals who broke a promise toyou. Practice this with simpler things before going onto with greater offenses.PageNot remembering, though, does not mean that you are not feeling the impact.We start by building our forgiveness muscle with the smaller things beforemoving onto the larger ones.16Your brain is a recording device capable of recording everything and anythingthat you have ever seen, felt or experienced. This is important to understandbecause, while this happens, it is not conscious. Our ego gets created and ourdefense mechanisms get created as we attempt to survive painful experiences. Asyour ego is helping you to cope, part of your coping is not always rememberingwhat happened. Add this to the fact that your memories are never 100% accuratebecause they are impacted by your emotional reactions. For this reason, Forgive toLive is focused on your feeling memories – true of not. We are concerned withhow it lives in you.Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020

Forgive to Live FREEAll is forgivable if you are willing to surrender over to Spirit any attachment ofsuffering and allow Spirit as you to be that which heals all discord.Rev. MichelleRetrieving Power from some smaller offenses:Use the list of individuals with whom you have unfinished business, feeloffended by or who broke a promise to you, that you created in the above page.Choose a couple of those names and write them here:(Place the name of the offender in the blank. Remember to feel into it!)1.2.3.4.5.is not the person I wanted him/her to be.does not possess the characteristics that I wishhe/she did.is not responsible for my continued upset.I, alone, am responsible for my response.I free from my mind and I am made free.Michelle Wadleigh / PHIAll Rights ProtectedJune 2020PageLet us look at what are you doing here with these statements. You areretrieving your power; first, by getting present and then, byacknowledging who is responsible for your reality. One of the secret powersof this course will come from your willingness to take responsibility and to realizethat no one outside you is ever responsible for your current reality. Although itmight look and feel like others are to blame, you will be thrown off yourcenter of power but blaming others. Remember what was said earlier:17And because someone always asks this question, yes, you can use yourown name, but it is also important that you are clear about cleaning upyour old and current relationships first. The sooner you begin to shift theenergy between you and others in your life, the sooner you will begin tofeel the benefits of this work.

Forgive to Live FREEYou are either responsible for what happened OR for how you holdwhat happened within your heart and mind.As we practice the Science of Mind, we are called to own our experience,and our experience exists in our mind and our pain body. We all have recordedwithin us some level of Body Pain. Body Pain is the physicalmanifestation of your past wounds which have seeped into your cells;your body, like your subconsciousness, records everything. It moves intoyour cells and goes unnoticed, creating in its wake all sorts of physicaland emotional distress.Some of what you think of as your memories are stories and pain youhave adopted from your family. It is highly likely that you will never beable to recall all that influences your anger and upset. Even though othersmight have a hand in leaving this mark in your subconscious and in yourbody temple, there is still a level of self-responsibility required. In simpleterms, blaming others – leaves you separate from your source of power, which isrequired to do this

Ernest Holmes and the Science of Mind gave me the tool for freedom – without Spiritual Mind Treatment I would still be trying to move through some of the most painful experiences of my life. The readings below are from Ernest Holmes, and every time I read them, I am reminded that I am on th