HEALING THE SOUL MASTER SERIES WORKBOOK Final
Healing the Soul Master SeriesBy Drs. Beverly and Tom RodgersCourse 1: What Are My Soul WoundsCourse 2: How to Re-Program the BrainCourse 3: How to Re-Train the MindCourse 4: How to Build Healthy Relationships1
What Are My Soul WoundsIntro to Soul Healing LoveBy Drs. Beverly and Tom RodgersDevelopers of The Soul Healing Love ModelSession 1 in the Series: Healing the Soul2
We are All Wounded: Intro to the Soul Healing Love ModelWhat is The Soul Healing Love ModelThe Soul Healing Love Model was developed by Drs. Bev and Tom Rodgers, Veteran ChristianCounselors. It is designed to help you heal past trauma which they call soul wounds from apsychological, neurobiological and Biblical perspective. It promotes a deeper understanding of yourpast and yourself and how this affects your present and future and more importantly, how to changedysfunctional habits, thoughts, emotions and behaviors. It has practical replicatable tools andexercises that make the model doable for everyone.Our Theme Scripture:I will heal thee of thy wounds and restore health unto thee. Jeremiah 30:17The Tools of the Soul Healing Love Model are designed to:1. Bring awareness of your past and determine your soul wounds.2. Heal past hurts and trauma through experiencing the Soul Healing Love of Christ alongwith sound tools and techniques3. Banish Basic Fears4. Enhance self-esteem5. Bring about understanding of self and others.6. Retrain the mind to focus on the positive instead of the negative and re-tell your storyfrom God’s perspective.7. Reduce reactivity and develop intentionality8. Learn Communication tools and techniques to develop healthy relationships9. Enhance empathy for yourself and others10.Foster forgiveness, let go of the baggage from the past that holds you backThis course is #1 in a series Called Healing the Soul with The Soul Healing Love Model and we are excitedthat you started your journey! For a more in-depth comprehensive healing process we offer you a chance to continueyour healing with courses 2, 3 and 4 in the Series. We also have Soul Healers for Couples and Training forCounselors and People Helpers.God Bless you as you learn and grow.3
Tenets of Soul Healing Love1. We have all been wounded in some way but blame is not our game. We don’t blame others for ourpain, we use our past to understand ourselves and actions.2. Not dealing with our past will cause us to be unhealthy in many ways. “Not dealing with our pastdestines us to repeat it.”3. God loves us unconditionally and this love heals our soul wounds and restores us to wholeness.4. God’s healing love helps us see ourselves through His eyes, and learn to love ourselves as He does.5. Because we feel loved and loveable, we can allow God’s love and grace to spill out on to others in ourlives. We can see ourselves through God’s eyes as well as seeing others as He does. Love replacesjudgement as we give to others the Soul Healing Love that God has given us.What is a Soul WoundA traumatic, painful event or environment from the past (particularly from childhood because the brain isvery formable in childhood) that creates unmet needs, unhealthy adaptations, negative internal messagesand behavioral patterns that can affect you throughout life if not dealt with. Basic Soul Needs That Go Unmet From Soul WoundsLove—to be unconditionally accepted for who you areSecurity—to know that you will not be harmed or abandonedSafety—there will be no tissue damage, property damage, or soul damageNurturance—you will have food, shelter, clothing and be hugged and touched appropriately andoftenUnderstanding—you can be who you are , understood for who you are and loved for who you areAffirmation—to have your gifts and abilities recognizedConnection—to belong to or be a part of something that is bigger than yourselfSupport—to have someone to help sustain you and hold you up, to have guidance and advice in lifeSignificance—to feel special and important to someone and know that your gifts and desires matterValidation—to feel approved of, confirmed and listened toIf these needs were not met you will likely have a soul wound that can haunt youPut a check by the needs in your early life that were not met and do scale from 1-10 as to how much theywere actually met4
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Reasons for Soul Wounds“We can rejoice too when we run into problems for we know that they are good for us-they help uslearn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God moreeach time we use it until finally our hope and faith will often of an invasive nature and causes a wide-rangeof long-term effects of this exposure. These events are severe and be strong and steady.”Romans 5:3-4Gender—living in a culture where one gender is favored over anotherDisabilities—you have learning disabilities or physical disabilities that make you feel less thanSociety—being ostracized because of your ethnicity, intolerance, or just being differentLooks—you hate your red hair and freckles or your big nose, facial features, scars etc.Size—you feel like you are too short, tall, over-weight, too skinnyAbilities—you aren’t athletic or artistic or fear heights, can be clumsy, don’t do well in school or certain subjectsEnvironment—poor, limited educational resources like money food or water, immigrant parents who you have totranslate for or protect, over-protection, no protection or oversightFamily of Origin—situations that occur in family systems that cause soul wound Mental Illness, ADD, OCD, Personality Disorders Addiction Abuse Adultery Chronic illness yours or others Death and loss Frequent Moves Differences: an athletic family with an artist son or educators with a learning disabled child Delinquency DivorceComplex Trauma: Exposure to traumatic events over time pervasive such as profound abuse or neglect.Simple Trauma: Is overwhelming and painful and often not simple! It involves experiences and events that are lifethreatening and/or have the potential to cause serious injury, such as a car accident, fire, or earthquake.What is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder? Is a syndrome people may experience when they have been a part of atraumatic event or environment. The symptoms include, reactivity, heart palpations, hypervigilance, high startlereflex, nightmares, sleep disturbance, anxiety, depression, feeling overwhelmed, and avoidance of situations, angryoutbursts or aggressiveness & more.6
Active WoundsPhysical: hitting, slapping, beating, being locked up, made to inflict pain on someone else, being restrainedVerbal: name calling, cursing, demeaning words, tone or posturePsychological and Emotional: threatening, blaming, shaming,Sexual: molestation, incestPassive WoundsNot being told you were loved, not hugged or shown affection, being neglected, manipulated, controlled,dismissed, parents who were in constant conflict, parents who did not love each other, work addicted parents,being told or made to believe that you were not good enough, having one sibling favored over you, constantcomparison, emotional incestCharacteristics of Abuse andTraumaPTSDSuper sensitivityPerfectionismPeople Pleasing/CodependencySense of unworthinessLow Self-EsteemWrong Idea of GodFear of FailureFear of SuccessDepressionAnxietyOCDFear of CommitmentFear of vulnerabilityFear of RejectionLack of trust in God, Self y Family Messages Spoken and Un-SpokenYou owe your parents for all they have done for youYour parents are always rightNever share your “dirty laundry” in publicIn order to be loved you must perform or produceBeing vulnerable always has negative resultsDuty and family comes before everythingOnly be close to people like usCertain cultures or races are badDon’t show anger, only show anger- explode to make a pointAvoid conflict at all costNice is a fruit of the spiritWork is the most important thing whether it’s a job or churchDon’t talk, don’t feel don’t trustYour needs are not important, take care of everyone elseSuccess is money, power, & positionSadness, depression and grief are signs of weaknessYou parent your parents not the other way aroundList your own:7
List the Life Events and Environments You Experienced That Caused Soul Wounds or TraumaJeremiah 31:3, I have loved you with an everlasting love; with lovingkindness I have drawn you to me.A Prayer for Seeing and Healing Your Past Soul Wounds to Feel, Deal & HealDear Lord,Please help my heart and my mind to be open to looking at my past. Help me to see what you want me to see,feel what you want me to and deal with it with your Soul Healing Love. Send your Holy Spirit to be with me as Iremember the things I would rather forget and bring good out of all that has happened to me as your word saysthat all things work together for my good. For this I thank You. Amen8
9Healing the Soul Master SeriesCourse 2Knowing and Healing Your NegativeProgrammingBy Drs. Beverly and Tom RodgersDevelopers of The Soul Healing Love Model9
10Our Unconscious and Conscious ProgrammingOften we respond in ways that baffle even ourselves. We react to people, statements andsituations in ways that are not healthy. As Christians we want to practice the fruits of the Spiritand live Godly, healthy lives but something inside often sabotages us. We can feel like we arebad Christians, not spiritual enough, need to read the Bible more or pray harder and all thewhile we are unaware of the unconscious programming that highjacks us.The Iceberg is frequently used as an illustration to help us understand why this happens.The top of the iceberg is our conscious mind: what we know about ourselves, our beliefs,feelings and attitudes. The bottom of the iceberg which as you can see is much greater,illustrates what we DON’T KNOW about ourselves. The unconscious mind is where ourwounds have programmed us. It is also the more primitive part of the brain often called the oldbrain, child brain, monkey brain or lizard brain because all animals have it. It is not subject toreason or logic so it reacts rather than responds. Reactivity and Interactivity occur as a result.The following are Exercises from the Soul Healing Model that help you identify significantevents in your past that could have caused soul wounds and thus programmed your unconsciousin a negative way. Bringing those events to light also brings them above the water so that youcan re-program your old and new brain with Healthy Godly thought, beliefs and attitudes.On the next page write the significant life events that occurred in each column.Look at the stage and you will see words like attachment, exploration these aredevelopmental tasks that are supposed to be successfully accomplished at those stages. Ifyou were wounded there, chances are you will suffer in those areas as an adult. You willalso see words at the top like Loner/Caretaker circle the one that best describes you today.10
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15Developing Soul Healing Goals“You can’t know God until you know yourself.”Based on the information that I listed on my Soul Healogram I have learned or made the following realizationswhich are called BELIEFS (Example: Women are considered equal to men, Marriage is not healthy or typicallyends in divorce, Crazy behavior is normal).This has caused me to react in the following ways which are called ADAPTATIONS (Examples: Feel inferior andnot speak up in front of men, Be disrespectful, forceful or insolent in front of men, Put up with abuse inrelationships.)What I want to see, experience and do differently with God’s help (Example: I and to believe that as a woman Iam beloved by God, I will not tolerate destructive or abusive behavior). With each goal write one practical wayyou are going to achieve it. Use more paper and continue to set these goals in the future.Soul Healing Goals15
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17A Prayer for Your Soul HealingHeavenly Father,Help Me to accomplish my Soul HealingGoals with your help.Help me to see the wounds and theprogramming that have held me back frombeing all you have called me to be. Help Me tocall upon the Holy Spirit’s power in my life tomove me to healing. Thank you for giving me aSpirit of power, love and a sound, disciplinedmind. Help me to use it to break strongholds offear, self-doubt, and unhealthy programming.Start a New beginning in me where I healthe wounds of the past and build a better,healthier future for my relationship with You,Myself and others.In Jesus name,Amen17
18Healing the Soul Master SeriesCourse 3How to Re-Train Your MindBy Drs. Beverly and Tom RodgersDevelopers of The Soul Healing Love Model18
19Re-Programming Negative ThoughtsThere is a difference between the brain and the mind. The brain is the skeleton of the psyche,how it works and operates with neurotransmitters and receptors releasing brain chemicals ona regular basis that course through the blood stream and body. The mind is your thoughts,feelings, beliefs and memories. Both affect each other so changing your thinking from negativeto positive can change your brain chemistry. For example, when you think negative thoughts,your brain releases negative brain chemicals such as adrenalin and cortisol, when you thinkpositive thoughts, your brain releases positive chemicals like serotonin and oxytocin. Positivethinking when done often also changes your mood and eventually your behavior.So practicing INTENIONALITY can change everything about you.The Scripture backs this up:Romans 12:2, “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.”Philippians 4:8 “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever isright, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent orpraiseworthy--think about such things."Proverbs 23:7, “As a man thinks in his heart so is he.” Intentionality is also MINDFULNESSMindfulness is based on awareness.Keeps you in the present momentIs non-judgmental of what you become aware ofInvolves acceptance of what is now with no worry of the past or futureInvolves surrender of your past, present and future to the Lord instead oftrying to doggedly go it alone.19
20God’s Vision of Renewing Your Mind Thoughts: “Take every thought captive to the truth of the Word of God.” 2Corinthians 10:5 Beliefs: “You will know the truth and the truth will set you free”. John 8:32Emotions: “For we know that all things work together for the good of themthat love God.” Romans 8:28 Actions: “Faith without works is dead.” James 1:22Write Below More Scriptures that talk of changing your Thoughts, Beliefs, Emotions andActions20
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22Doing Battle With the EnemyI believe that the most lawless and inordinate loves are lesscontrary to God’s will than a self-invited and self-protectivelovelessness.” C.S.LewisWho are we to say thatGod’s handiworkis notworthyof thelove?VoiceJeremiah31:3,I haveloved you with an everlastDistinguishingGod’sVoicefromof YourArchEnemySatan’s Lies (Rigid Thoughts)Rushes YouPushes YouScares youConfuses youDiscourages youWorries youCondemns youGod’s WordStills YouLeads YouReassures youEnlightens YouEncourages youCalms youConvicts youCondemnation: negative judgment and disapproval indicating the need for punishment.Conviction: to ascribe or assign guilt or responsibility for the purpose of restitution and changeEphesians 3:17 Let your roots grow down deep in the soil of God’s marvelous love, that you may be able to feel andunderstand how long, how wide, how deep and how high His love really is; and you are able to experience this love foryourselves though it is so great you may never see the end of it.Retelling or Reappraisal This is changing your Negative Narrative to a Faith-filled Future Seeing your life from a Heavenly Perspective Seeing yourself and your life circumstances through God’s eyes. Retelling your story no longer as a Victim but a Victor Kicking Satan and his lies about you to the CurbBelieving Romans 8:28For we know (trying to get there) that all things work together for the good of themthat love God.22
23TRUSTER RE-CONSTRUCTORThe following is an exercise developed by Rev. Linda Newton, Dr. Bev’s twin sister in her book Turning Your Pain intoPraise. Insert your name in each blank line and pray this regularly even pray it out loud.Use any passage of Scripture you like.“Truster Reconstructor Exercise”In the light of God’s word are the messages of my soul wounds true?Whoever touches touches the apple of His eye. Zechariah 2:8bIndeed the very hairs of ’s head are numbered. Luke 12:7Where can go from your presence? If goes up to the heavens you are there; if I make mybed in the depths you are there. For you created ’s inmost being; you knit togetherin my mother’s womb. I will praise you, for is fearfully and wonderfully made. All the daysfor were written in your book before one of them came to be. Psalm 139:7-10, 14-16.I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to and heard ’s cry. HE LIFTEDOUT OF THE SLIMY PIT, OUT OF THE MUD AND MIRE; HE SET ’s FEET ON A ROCKAND GAVE A FIRM PLACE TO STAND. HE PUT A NEW SONG IN ’s MOUTH, A HYMNOF PRAISE TO OUR GOD. Psalm 40: 1-3.God demonstrates his love for in that while was still a sinner, Christ died for. Romans 5:8.He was pierced for ’s Transgressions; he was bruised for ’s iniquities: the punishmentthat brought peace was upon Him, and by His wounds is healed. Isaiah 53:5And my God shall meet all ’s needs according to his riches in glory. Philippians 4: 19.Overwhelming victory is ’s through Christ who loved enough to die forFor is convinced that nothing can separate from the love of God. Death can’t, andlife can’t. The angels won’t, and all the powers of hell itself cannot keep God’s love away from .Romans8: 38-39.My grace is sufficient for , for my power is made perfect in weakness. Therefore, I willboast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on . That is why, forChrist’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions. For when I am weak, then I am strong.Corinthians 12:9-10.And lo I am with always even to the end of the age. Matthew 28:2023
24Healing the Soul Master SeriesCourse 4How to Build Healthy RelationshipsUsing Positive Communication ToolsBy Drs. Beverly and Tom RodgersDevelopers of The Soul Healing Love Model24
25Moving from a Negative to aPositive SelfThe way to attract healthy peopleis to get healthy yourself. Healthy people attract healthyRelationshipspeople. Healthy people know who theyare, like who they are and Are who they are”Charles SwindollFollow God’s Image:Self ImagePerformanceServiceRulesImage ManagementLawGod’s ImageMade in the Image of GodWorthy of His Sacrifice (Romans 5:8)Unconditional LoveNamed by God (Jeremiah 1:5)GraceDON’T HIDE YOUR SCARS. WEAR THEM AS PROOF THAT GOD HEALSHow to be a Healthy Person1. You know yourself and you know God.2. You continue to know and trust God to heal your past and look for a better future and have a deeppersonal loving relationship with Him.3. In self-examination you are not frightened about what you see.4. You see your shadow, sin patterns and move to change them with the help of God and those around you.5. Which means you are not afraid to ask for help, seek out a therapist, mentor, pastor, support group orother means for your growth and healing.6. You are flexible and adaptable to all of life’s changes.7. You are an actor not a reactor because you know the source of your soul wounds and are activelyworking on healing them.8. You regulate your emotions and learn to self soothe because you are aware of your triggers and soulwounds that cause them.9. You don’t repress emotions or hurl them in anger. You practice intentionally and balance of emotions inyour life and relationships.10. You have compassion and empathy but do not let them overtake you and lead to over-caring, over-fixingor codependency.11. You have no other idols than the Lord especially relationships.12. You don’t compare yourself to others because you love who you are.13. Communicate in an open and honest manner.14. You don’t blame or shame others you practice ownership, truth and honesty.15. You are quick to forgive and don’t harbor resentment and bitterness.25
26Know What Emotion is Underneath Your AngerAccording to Psychodynamic Therapy, Anger is not a Primary Emotion, it is a secondary emotion ormore of a reaction to emotions that are much deeper. These deeper emotions are GUILT,INFERIORITY or INADEQUACY, FEAR, TRAUMA (Pain, your feelings are hurt). We chose the wordtrauma because together they are an acronym spelling GIFT, making it easier to remember whenanger is triggered. If you can get in touch with the real emotions underneath you can understandyourself and share what you are feelings without unhealthy anger.The GIFT ExerciseThe following emotions are usually underneath the feelingof anger. Identifying these emotions shows you what is really going oninside of you when you are angry with your spouse. Next time you getangry, share what is really on your heart instead.GuiltInferiorityFearTrauma or PainTaken from the book—Soul Healing Love by Drs. Bev & Tom RodgersThe Digging Deeper ExerciseThis Exercise uses the Gift as the first 2 steps to help you get in touch your trigger, then your deeperemotion. Then you connect your trigger to a past event or environment that is recorded in youramygdala that is causing your reactive anger. You will then list what you do when you are triggered.Lastly you write what you need. The need list in session 1 is listed below so you know what you reallyneed. Often we get triggered and want to resolve a conflict but have no idea what we need. If you don’tknow what you need you cannot resolve your anger or heal conflict in relationships. Answer thefollowing questions. Then on the next page put your triggers and answers in the columns.TRIGGER: What is causing you to feel anger or reactivity.ENOTION: use the GIFT Exercise to determine what is at the root of your anger?PAST OCCURANCE: What happened in your past that this wound is replicating? It can be an eventor environment.REACTION: What do you do when this happens?NEED: What do you really need when this occurs?26
27Basic Soul Needs That Go Unmet From Soul Wounds Love—to be unconditionally accepted for who you are Security—to know that you will not be harmed or abandoned Safety—there will be no tissue damage, property damage, or souldamage Nurturance—you will have food, shelter, clothing and be huggedand touched appropriately and often Understanding—you can be who you are , understood for who youare and loved for who you are Affirmation—to have your gifts and abilities recognized Connection—to belong to or be a part of something that is biggerthan yourself Support—to have someone to help sustain you and hold you up, tohave guidance and advice in life Significance—to feel special and important to someone and knowthat your gifts and desires matter Validation—to feel approved of, confirmed and listened to27
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29Forgiveness is the Gift You Give Yourself“Nothing is more precious to God than thanking Him for affliction.”Robert FrostForgiveness gives you freedom, perspective, energy to move on and assurance that your prayers will beanswered.Romans 12:19, says never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God.If revenge is your goal you will need to dig 2 graves.Revenge is like drinking poison and waiting for someone else to die.If God does not protect us from hurt, He will perfect us through it.How do you know you have forgiven?You feel unburdened not vengefulYou let go not ruminating and grudge holdingHealed not heavyGentle not harshPeaceful not depressedGod’s protective care not revengeHumble not holier than thou and pridefulSurrendering not fightingCompassion not callousedYou accept what is not fretting, fixing or fightingLoving not crushed and brokenLight not jealousLess desire for pay back and more desire to just live wellMy Prayer to ForgiveHeavenly Father,Help me to forgive those who have wounded my soul. It feels so unfair but I have hurt you in mydisobedience and you forgive me so how can I do any less. Help me to stop carrying the offense and give itto you. Help me to forgive so you can hear my prayers and forgive me (Matthew 6:14-15). Help me tosurrender my offender into your hands and find peace and freedom, lightness and joy!In Jesus Name, Amen29
30I Asked God I asked God for strength that I might achieve,I was made weak that I might learn to humbly obey.I asked God for health that I might do great things,I was given infirmity that I might do better things.I asked God for riches that I might be happy,I was given poverty that I might be wise.I asked for power that I might have the praise of men,I was given weakness so that I might feel the need for God.I asked for all things that I might enjoy life,I was given life that I might enjoy all things.I got nothing that I asked for, but everything that I had hoped for,I am among all people MOST RICHLY BLESSED.30
31Re-Write Your Story in the Light of God’s Soul Healing LoveAlso list the things you want to work on as a result of this study.More Courses at Soul Healing Love University:Soul Healers Couples Complete WorkshopSoul Healing Love Leaders TrainingFor the Future: How Do You Find a Healthy MateHow to Know if Someone Has ChangedHow to Forgive the UnforgivableThe Differences in Men and WomenHow to Deal With Depression and many moreGod Bless You on Your Soul Healing Journey31
I will heal thee of thy wounds and restore health unto thee. Jeremiah 30:17 The Tools of the Soul Healing Love Model are designed to: 1. Bring awareness of your past and determine your soul wounds. 2. Heal past hurts and trauma through experiencing the Soul Healing Love of Christ along
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The Healing Ministry of Jesus 8 Jesus and Healing 13 The Mercy of God and Healing 18 Our Bodies Are Temple of the Holy Spirit 21 Twelve Points On Healing 28 Common Questions On Healing 32 Healing, Health and Medicine 37 Demons Defeated 39 Bible Verses On Healing 48 .
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